Good day to you Ladies and Gentlemen,
It’s been few months since I put pen to paper and shared some experiences and thoughts on here. I have had some health issues and I will be having a surgery, hopefully I will be in a more upright position pretty soon.
Over the years, I have had many chats on various social media sites, and the one question I kept asking myself is why would a young, beautiful, enabler or just a lovely woman want to chat with a old seventy eight year old man. I probably know the answer and odds are pretty good that I do. Please ask yourself, why is she or he here and wanting to chat with me. I think this question will help you understand the right questions to ask a new acquittance.
The one thing I must stress is that during the course of chatting, please do a live video chat before you sending any gifts, gift cards, bitcoins to someone online (most of those online accounts are fake and untraceable) without first at least matching and verifying a face, voice and conversation online. Yes,
these can be faked using artificial intelligence, and please don’t get fooled by a video in which you can not match the words you hear with the lip and facial movement. Do not fall for the Manny cam, the application only plays a pre-recorded or copied video in reel time to deceive you into believing it’s a live video chat.
You may want to ask how I know all these? I learnt it the hard way and paid the price a few times. That is a personal decision and is one that you make, and if you elect to sends gifts of any kind, make sure that it does not effect your financial position and that you can afford to loose the little monies.
The following are a few things I ask for or think of before taking actions when chatting with someone who expresses an interest or a person I have an interest in getting to know better.
1. Do a live video chat.
2. Trust but verify.
3. Ask many questions and really pay attention to the answer and how the questions are answered. Look closely at the use of the English language, different areas of the world use English as a second language and composition will be most likely different to where English is a first language, look out for the usage of slangs too. I:e someone from Texas will mostly know when he is talking to someone from Texas. When a new acquittance tell you where they live, research that place and ask about some little known facts about the city or state. Never be afraid to ask questions and upset someone….If they get mad – they will get unmad. Pay attention as to time lapse between question and answer….They might be looking for the right answer on search.
4. Do no believe anything from a verified site unless you can verify by a different source. Anyone can apply for a verified blue tick sticker on ant site and pay a m0nthly fee, and for you guys out there, think with the head on your shoulders not the one below your waist.
5. Do enjoy the game but remember, the harder they push for gifts…..It is most likely a romance scam, it is not about love and you will not get a refund.
6. If you decide you want to send funds to someone, please do so by wire transfer to an FDIC insured institution. Do not send to a friend of the person who has a problem with wire transfers because of dispute with the bank, or does not want a join holder of the account to know that they are receiving gifts. Make sure there is a full name on the account, the routing numbers and account numbers and name of bank along with the address of the bank and the address of the person you are sending the wire too. At least you will have a paper trail. Kinda simple, why would someone who lives in Miami Florida have an account in say Wisconsin or California? That’s a teamed up scam.
7. While chatting be sure to obtain a telephone number and e or g mail address. Many sites can tract back to the owner or originator of the details. Whether it is the phone number or a tract of the ip address……same rule as set out above in No 6. Why have phone from location that is not where you live or an IP address that is offshore or outside the USA.
8. Be wary of the questions: What you doing right now (wyd). This is a ploy to keep
You talking and giving out information …… wyd right now is chatting.
9. I could list all of the reasons I have heard that the need for funds exist but the list are long and varied. “Mom is sick, having a heavy period and need additional medication”, “sister is sick, my puppy is sick and I need to take to vet”. I need to buy gasoline for car and on and on and on…….Hell they will ask for just a little a little so they can keep playing games on line
Yes I have been scammed but trying to keep from being scammed again. I have had chats that last for months, some even over a year. Would I like to meet someone and have a wonderful relationship with? …. Answer is Yes! and I have met some very nice people on social media but I have taken the position that chatting is a game of skill and chance and it is damn hard to win the prize.